“Sexuality is one of the ways that we become enlightened, actually, because it leads us to self-knowledge.” -Alice Walker
This morning, through my Facebook business page, I received a direct message from a total stranger. The message said, “I want to make you cum so HARD!” This message came from a man I have not only never met personally but never even interacted with online or otherwise.
Unfortunately, receiving comments or messages like this is not uncommon for me. You might think that I would be pissed or at least offended. Instead, my mind goes to an even more intriguing place. I think to myself how? What technique would this total stranger use to make me cum so HARD!?!
It is in that moment that I remember why I embrace my Super Power; helping men achieve sexual mastery. I remember why I teach people how to experience positive, healthy, expressive, connected and deeply pleasurable sex and intimacy. So I thank this total stranger for the “hard” reminder (pun intended).
It is likely that this young man has absolutely no ability to back up his claim. Because I can guarantee you that, even if I laid naked before him and allowed him to do whatever horrendous sexual acts to my body that he thought would make me cum HARD… I would not experience pleasure and I would certainly not have an orgasm. Call me odd but for some reason, I like to dive into the minds of others…
I imagine he would likely flip me over and take me from behind slamming away wildly with zero awareness of the woman on the other end. Possibly he’d think I want him to jam his manhood down my throat. Maybe he would pleasure me by ejaculating on my face or if I was truly blessed maybe he’d bless my vagina with a good ole finger banging. Because that always makes women cum HARD! Right!?!
Oh my, what an interesting world we live in. I look forward to the day when our society no longer needs sex coaches and therapists. I look forward to the day when people make love not porn. I apologize if this post seems off topic or in bad taste. I choose to write about these moments rather than allowing myself to shut down or feel overwhelmed by how sexually f*cked up our wold is.
From my heart to yours,
Joy
Very interesting post. Porn is just not healthy at all and its terrible for young people who have limited experience in anything else.
I fully agree with your perception. Thanks for sharing
Re. “Wants to make you cum so hard” this man has no idea how to connect or make love. I believe his only goal is self pleasure. He only wants to get himself off . Personally , it is much more satisfying to connect spiritually with the women I am with. I am most fulfilled when I am able to fulfill the needs of the women I am with. Whether her needs be physical , spiritual, conversational, of just being together and holding each. Getting myself off is the least important…..cheers
Beautiful thank you so much for sharing
Brilliant assement
There is so much more the intercourse, or oral, to making love. As a male you loves being naked in mixed company .and lives sex, i realize I still have a lot to learn about the female body and how to pleasure a women and how to completely satisfy her. I am always willing to learn and experience new techniques and open to suggestions and mentoring.
Hi Joy, yes I am on twitter. @benke1313
Awesome if you follow me on Twitter GetNakedWithJoy you’ll see the challenge
An absolute ridiculous situation that you faced with this, why can’t people separate sexuality with personal freedom and expression.
I so agree with you. As man I found make love to a woman really making love! Is the only way for me to connect to the woman. Porn never really excited me. I just didn’t see the love in that. I wonder at times that I might be a different person to feel that way. After reading your post I knew I wasn’t the only one. Some where along the line of growing up I have mature so much. I take the time a lone to connect my soul clear my mind and I do this nude. I’m very comfortable of my being. Thank you for sharing this. Michael
Beautiful Michael, thanks for sharing! You are so not alone. 💗
Nice reaction to a negative situation
Thanks