The Paradox of Pleasure

To be able to break down the barrier of space between yourself and your lover, yet at the same time be able to maintain it is the paradox of pleasure…

I wanted to start by sending you a virtual hug and my deepest gratitude to each of you who commented, messaged, and emailed me in response to yesterday’s post. While some of you have faced and conquered your barriers to love and pleasure, I heard from so many of you that you are still struggling. I want you to know that you are not alone.

On top of the everyday challenges our society faces when it comes to intimacy, pleasure and sex, we are collectively facing a global pandemic. This means that, beyond barriers we face within our minds, bodies, souls and hearts, many of us also feel isolated from our friends, family and community. I am touching on this not to focus on the negatives…rather to remind each of you that, if you are feeling isolated or disconnected, you are not alone.

So how do we each begin to break down the barriers we’ve identified? How do we reconnect with ourselves? How do we reconnect with our pleasure? If your barriers are more of an internal struggle, then the answer lies within. If your barriers are related to your romantic partnership, it may be more difficult to experience a breakthrough, especially if your partner is an unwilling participant.

A gentle reminder: Don’t seek to control or influence others; the only person you control is yourself. Seek to gain greater self-love. Master yourself. Master your pleasure. For only once you truly understand your body’s innate intelligence and identify your personal pleasure triggers will you be able to be fully present with yourself and your current or future lover(s).

My question for you: What is one step you can take today to begin to more fully understand yourself as an individual, and ultimately as a lover…?

From my heart to yours,

13 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    Only one for you

  2. 💕

  3. Marc says:

    Accepting who you truly feel you are and seeking to be respected while respecting others’ point of view.

  4. Inward Locus says:

    Revolting. Changed my view completely!!

  5. Tom says:

    MERRY CHRISTMAS JOY ! I wish you all the the health, wealth, and happiness you can handle !! Naturism is a wonderful life style ! Be as naked as possible ! I love it !! Cheers Tom from the Van Tan

  6. Michael says:

    Hey Joy, thank you for your reply. Then for me, it’s a question of physical pleasure and release. I am so much more grounded now not only from this years trials but finding your writings as well. I feel peaceful each day and thankful to be alive.
    My pleasure barrier is my desire to have my “light sword” honored and worshipped. I feel the the lingam is to be loved and not disapproved of my society. I know from your writings that nudists look down on the male erection but it doesn’t need to be treated that way. I am proud of mine and when he is fully engorged I feel whole and complete. A lover should desire her mates light sword and love its beauty, power and symbolism. A full release is a sign of health and acceptance. Your writings show your inner goddess and your training able you to appreciate the light sword more than most.
    How do I break this barrier is the question?
    I’m sure you’ll be able to guide me. Help me!
    From my heart to your, Michael

  7. Michael says:

    Wow Joy, what a simple but very deep question to answer. Are you asking about self pleasure as in orgasms? Or Is it just peaceful feelings? A restful mind? I have read much of your writings and you are very sensual so I am guessing it’s self pleasure that will change your overall state of mind and body. As a man, nothing is more satisfying than a full erection. To me it symbolizes health and well being. It’s beauty is unmatched and it produces life. I know you wrote the book on multi-orgasmic men but it has revealed itself to me. I am enjoying my nudist journey this year, thanks to you, but I have so much more to learn from you. Please let me know if this sounds like the direction you intended.
    BTW I love the tiny house pictures
    All best, Michael

    1. Hey Michael, it is a deep question… I didn’t clarify so that each person could interpret the question from their own perspective. Seems like I wrote that book in a different lifetime lol. I’m so happy to hear you have found solace in nudism/naturism! My intention was to have you self reflect so thank you for participating! All the best to you as well:) -Joy

  8. bondi50 says:

    Just be your self and respect athers.

  9. rhpayne says:

    Being more in the present

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