To be able to break down the barrier of space between yourself and your lover, yet at the same time be able to maintain it is the paradox of pleasure…
I wanted to start by sending you a virtual hug and my deepest gratitude to each of you who commented, messaged, and emailed me in response to yesterday’s post. While some of you have faced and conquered your barriers to love and pleasure, I heard from so many of you that you are still struggling. I want you to know that you are not alone.
On top of the everyday challenges our society faces when it comes to intimacy, pleasure and sex, we are collectively facing a global pandemic. This means that, beyond barriers we face within our minds, bodies, souls and hearts, many of us also feel isolated from our friends, family and community. I am touching on this not to focus on the negatives…rather to remind each of you that, if you are feeling isolated or disconnected, you are not alone.
So how do we each begin to break down the barriers we’ve identified? How do we reconnect with ourselves? How do we reconnect with our pleasure? If your barriers are more of an internal struggle, then the answer lies within. If your barriers are related to your romantic partnership, it may be more difficult to experience a breakthrough, especially if your partner is an unwilling participant.
A gentle reminder: Don’t seek to control or influence others; the only person you control is yourself. Seek to gain greater self-love. Master yourself. Master your pleasure. For only once you truly understand your body’s innate intelligence and identify your personal pleasure triggers will you be able to be fully present with yourself and your current or future lover(s).
My question for you: What is one step you can take today to begin to more fully understand yourself as an individual, and ultimately as a lover…?
From my heart to yours,