Be Kind.

Throughout the pandemic, I’ve stayed out of the political debates and discussions both online and as much as possible, at home. We all have our own perspectives on the pandemic, masks, vaccines, travel restrictions, and the related difficulties. 

For those of you who don’t know me personally, I have family in Canada which is also where my tiny home is located. My partner lives in the US, I run a business out of the US and my main residence is in the US. Traveling freely between Point Roberts in the USA and Salt Spring Island in Canada, where the majority of my family, including my children live, is vital to my family’s health and well being. To add insult to injury, in February of this year, my youngest son was diagnosed with three rare life threatening cancers.

To be able to support him, it was necessary for me to stay in Canada. The quarantine, border restrictions and associated costs made it impossible for me to come to the US. Although I understand why the restrictions are in place, it took a huge toll on my relationship and my business which damaged my family’s emotional, spiritual and financial well being.

My point? During the pandemic, people from all over the world have had increased levels of stress, anxiety, and financial pressure. Many people have lost loved ones or been separated by borders for over 1.5 years! I realize you know all of this.

My intention in reiterating what we all have faced personally and as a global society is to share a not so gentle reminder. BE KIND! When we face these types of challenges, it is vital to our personal and global health that we hold space for one another. 

It is vital that we treat each other with compassion and respect. I posted this photo of me in my pride mask, stripping down at the end of my work day on Twitter and received the following comment:

“Wearing a mask while naked is the perfect outfit for a dullard.” 

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I mean, seriously, WTF?!? I had just gotten back from an elderly client’s home. They felt more comfortable with all of us wearing masks. Was it hot and a tad annoying to have to wear both a shirt (even though it’s technically legal for women to be top free in Washington state)? Yes. Was it hot and a tad annoying to have to wear a mask? Yes.

But, at the end of the day, it is not about me. When I am out in the world, I have zero desire to make others feel uncomfortable (although I do exercise my top freedom rights and occasionally make people uncomfortable). However, I will not EVER choose my own personal comfort (being mask free) and make someone else feel unsafe. 

Do I feel like me being mask free was a direct danger to our lovely clients. No. But I do my best to be a conscientious and compassionate global citizen. My wish for everyone is that they feel safe, respected and supported. If you disagree with me on any level, that’s okay. But please be kind. 

From my heart to yours, Joy

12 Comments Add yours

  1. Richard says:

    Sometimes, it is virtually impossible to avoid the politics though. Wearing a mask here 🇮🇲 is personal choice now except in healthcare environments where it is mandatory. Staying away from crowds is a given, as medically we are vulnerable but we do miss going to Jersey 🇯🇪 to see family. Hope the health issues of your youngest son are resolved satisfactorily. #staysafe and as you say, be kind.

    1. It’s so true. Emotions are continuing to run high and people are easily triggered. It is mostly the same in BC but in Washington state masks are mandatory if you’re not fully vaccinated. I’m waiting to get my 2nd… thanks for your kind words!

  2. David Reyes says:

    Praying for your son’s recovery

  3. Robert Payne says:

    Sorry that a person who pretends to be someone of integrity (in name only) called you that. Calling you a “dullard” only demeans himself/herself and shows a lack of knowledge on every level.

    1. Thanks. I’ve had to develop a tough skin (pun intended) as an online naturist, body positive activist and sex coach:)

  4. renegourley says:

    We in BC have been so fortunate to have a daily reminder to “be calm, be kind, be safe.” Most of the rest of the world have not been so fortunate and lost perspective of the reason why we wear masks. It was never to protect ourselves, but to care for others.

    Sadly, the dullards out there will not read past the photo.

    1. I agree. I’ve spent 50% of the pandemic in BC and the other portion in Point Roberts. Overall, both places are doing better in that regard than much of the world. We just lead by example and do our best to be calm, be kind and be safe! 💕

  5. Anonymous says:

    thank you for post,i as well staying away from politics,it stirs up more anger and frustrartion,

    1. Yes it’s unfortunate but true. Hopefully this will be a distant memory soon and we have al learned some valuable life lessons… thank you for your kind response.

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