Today I want to share a quote that resonates with my soul:
I am not suited to polite society
To social striving, upward mobility, and making good impressions
I am radically honest, sensitive, brilliant, and blunt
I hold up a mirror to the best and worst facets of human life.~Vajrayogini~
My lover’s mother does NOT understand me which causes her to question my integrity as a woman. Beyond the fact that my main residence is a tiny glass and timber home on a secluded island, the pin up girl tattoo on my right leg boggles her mind. She cannot understand why an upstanding woman would adorn her body with “smut”. She also judges the fact that I don’t wear a bra. From her perspective, a woman who has self respect wears a bra. Imagine if she was ever unfortunate enough to stumble upon my blog and online influencer accounts!
Although the inspiration behind my tattoo may not make sense to her, it is meaningful to me. When my daughter had her tattoo shop, one of her artists was drawing a Sailor Jerry showgirl tattoo and I fell in love with her. I was a feature show girl in the late 90’s. I traveled from Florida to Washington dancing in most major cities along the way. The pin up girl on my leg reminds me to be true to who I am, despite the fact that I live in a world that may never “get me”.
Experiencing the harmful effects of these judgments has caused me to contemplate the on going conversation amongst nudist, naturist, textile, body positive, gender equality, sex positive and exhibitionist focused accounts on social media. One thing stood out to me; it takes a lot of courage to stand up for our beliefs and even more so to publicly express our opinions online.
The current state of the world has unfortunately resulted in a lot of divide, not only within our global communities, but also within our local communities. Hector Martinez whom I have connected with on Twitter is a shining example of a humxn who stands by his beliefs. Hector recently created a very well expressed post about naturism, nudism, sexuality, following various accounts, etc. I personally thought his post was well written and to me, his message was clear. I found it sad to read some of the comments not only on his most recent post, but on many of his previous posts.
When we as conscientious members of a shared society disagree or don’t fully see eye to eye, why do some of us share our response in an aggressive and unsupportive manner? I am curious to see if the individuals who shame, belittle, or degrade others online would express their opinions and opposition in the same manner during an in person exchange. Unfortunately, in many situations, like the one I’ve personally experienced with my parnter’s mother, I daresay the answer is yes.
So how do those of us who choose to respect the opinions of others, not only when we agree but more importantly, when we disagree, help create a more cohesive experience in online communities? My two cents? In the words of
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”Gandhi (the origin of this quote is also an on going debate…;)
I would love to hear your thoughts…